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Shannon Dexter Barnes  //  A purpose-driven leader, strategist, coach, husband, father, friend, and grace-covered pilgrim looking to change the world...starting with me.

Jun 30 / 10:42am

Making the Most of the Meantime

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Using the Waiting Room of Life

From Shannon: This article hit me right where I am these days. Exploring. Waiting. Feeling like I’m pursuing the direction I’m supposed to be going, but impatient with the process and the challenges in this season of life. Thought I’d share it with you. (Click here to see the original post.)

If there is one thing people in our generation hate to do, it is to wait. And why should we? We are an impatient generation that can Google questions rather than work for an answer. We can order shoes online rather than suffering the long weekend lines at the retail store. We can even book reservations ahead of time rather than wait for a table at our favorite establishment.

But God doesn’t operate any faster in the 21st century than He did in the first. And so while we rush ourselves and everything else in our lives, we can’t rush God. In fact, much of life is spent waiting.

  • Waiting for a response to a book proposal.
  • Waiting to hear from a potential employer.
  • Waiting for a medical diagnosis.
  • Waiting to meet your spouse.
  • Waiting for a letter from your top choice for college.

While our natural inclination is to hate waiting, this period of uncertainty can actually be a time of great personal growth. Here are three lessons I learned while in the “waiting room” of life:

Recognize that God is in control—even when it seems He has forgotten you.

I love the words to the Old Testament prophet Habakkuk: "Look around at the nations; look and be amazed! For I am doing something in your own day, something you wouldn’t believe even if someone told you about it” (Habakkuk 1:5, NLT). Often when it seems nothing is happening, everything is happening behind the scenes. You just can’t see it.

For a few years, I felt God calling my wife and me to another ministry, but it seemed every door was closed. At times I grew restless and wondered if I had fallen into some kind of godless abyss. What I didn’t see was the circumstances God had to work out in order to put me where I am today, as a senior pastor of a growing church. The machinery of God’s sovereignty was at work all along, and I just didn’t know it.

Renew your faith in God’s quiet, steady providence.

A few years ago, my wife and I were waiting on several important family and career developments. To quell my anxiety, I did a study on waiting in the Scriptures. I was amazed to find that every major figure in the Bible was forced to wait long periods of time before God brought them to a place of success.

  • Abraham waited 25 years before his wife Sarah gave birth to their first child.
  • Joseph slogged through 13 years of betrayal, false imprisonment and abandonment before assuming the leadership of Egypt.
  • Moses spent 40 years tending sheep before God called him as a deliverer of His people.
  • David spent 14 years before he took the throne of Israel that had been promised to him.
  • And in Jesus’ own ministry, He often told His disciples, “My hour has not yet come.”

Waiting is not incidental to faith. Waiting is the DNA of faith.

Redeem your time in the waiting room of life.

A few years ago, my wife endured some terrible health challenges. I literally spent hours in waiting rooms all over the Chicago area. This was before the age of iPhones, so I was forced to sit there, twiddling my thumbs or reading three-year-old magazines with outdated information. I hated every second of it.

We often do the same during our own waiting periods. So anxious are we for that “next step,” we languish in despair. But James 1:4 reminds us to “let patience have her perfect work.”

Just because you are technically waiting doesn’t mean you can’t be accomplishing something. Times of uncertainty and doubt are useful periods in which we can draw into God, hone our skills and prepare for the time when that big promotion comes.

  • A single man or woman should ready him or herself for marriage while still single by reading books about relationships, developing themselves personally and praying for their future spouse.
  • A future employee can get a leg-up on the position he covets by taking a few extra college classes or diving into books and podcasts by leaders they respect.
  • A writer should continue to cultivate his craft, reading and filling blank pages while he’s waiting for the big contract.

View your time in “the waiting room” as a season of growth and development and you’ll find you’ll be that much more ready when “the moment” finally arrives. Waiting for answers can be one of the most grueling seasons of life, but with the proper perspective, you may look back on these periods as some of the most formative and meaningful times of life. So make the most of it. What are you waiting for?

Daniel Darling is the pastor of Gages Lake Bible Church in Chicago. He is the author of iFaith: Connecting with God in the 21st Century and blogs regularly here.

 

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Aug 17 / 11:32am

Molly Gordon - Thoughts on "The Secret"

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Molly’s the real deal – a insightful and sensitive thinker who passes on wisdom through her blog and regular emails. Here’s one I recently received…

Why "The Secret" Hasn't Made You a Millionaire

This article goes against much of what passes for spiritual teaching these days. It says that succeeding (even modestly) is hard work. It also says you can do it.

If self-employment isn't turning out the way you want, this could be the most important thing you read this year.

It begins with farming.

Reading the "Farmers' Almanac" won't make you a farmer

You wouldn't expect to transform yourself from a suburban gardener to a full-fledged farmer by reading the "Farmers' Almanac." For one thing, it's a hodgepodge of old wive's tales, raw data, and casual anecdote. Not the kind of guide you need for a complex endeavor.

And then there's the gap between reading it and doing it. Even if the instructions were great and you followed them perfectly, life would happen. Weather would romp across your fields. Insects would treat your crops like a fast food joint. Weeds would do their weedy thing.

It's the same with anything you do, including earning a living.

"The Secret" won't make you successful

Like the "Farmers' Almanac," "The Secret" is a hodgepodge of truth, partial truth, and myth. As such, it's an incomplete map of the territory between where you are and where you want to go.

"The Secret" suggests that the means for getting from where you are to where you want to go is invocation of spiritual laws.

Hogwash. Not that there aren't spiritual laws (that's the part that's true). But the human ego doesn't get to manipulate spiritual law for its own purposes. And, trust me, when you're wanting to attract something into your life, however exalted, your ego is involved.

The ego is not a bad thing

The ego is the engine of choice and action. It decides what we want and gets us into all sorts of messes along the way to getting it. And because we are both spiritual and material beings, we wrestle with the ego. We know that there is more to life than accruing wealth or power.

But here's the deal. Without the ego, there's no wrestling match. And the wrestling match is what life is all about. It's the vehicle for any transformation worthy of the name. Which, by the way, is why I claim that self-employment is a rigorous spiritual path.

So success, both material and spiritual, isn't about bypassing your ego (or pretending to) by invoking the Law of Attraction. It's about engaging your ego in the creation of your life and work.

It starts by deciding what you want to create

Here's one place where "The Secret" and I agree. Creation begins with deciding what you will create. And why on earth would you compromise on this piece? Choose something that makes your heart sing, and be sure to include the material resources you'll need to play the accompaniment.

You might ask if it isn't arrogant to make an audacious choice. And yes, it would be, if you believed you could command your choice into being. But, in fact, you are only the junior partner in the act of creation. And junior partners get to do the scut work. Which brings us to the next step.

Decide how you're going to create

What are you going to do to get results? No passive "manifesting" here. You're going to need something more concrete here than positive thinking. As the junior partner in the business of creating, you're responsible for making what you want take form in the physical world. That's why you have a body. And a brain. And emotions that, well, that motivate you.

You know, or can find out, what you have to do to build what you want, so no excuses.

Do the thing

Start building. Start where you can with what you have. Keep track of what you do so you can learn what works and what doesn't.

And, by the way, keep doing the thing. It's been said that magic is the marriage of intention and action. I would add iteration. Very few things work the way you expect the first time out. The beauty is that you get to keep trying.

A word about energy and inspiration

Creating takes time and effort. Sometimes you even have to start over. That means you will need ongoing sources of energy and inspiration.

But sometimes they won't be there.

In real life, vision fades. Confidence flags. Energy drops. But that doesn't have to mean the end of creating. When you know that there will be bumps and slumps, you won't take them so personally. You can plan for them, which won't take away the ickiness, but will help you stay with it until things are looking up.

You can do this

I don't know if you can be a millionaire. I rather doubt that you want to be. But I know for certain that you can create more of what you want, more reliably, than you probably are now. And the key to doing that is to get into action.

I do believe that all the Universe is here to support you. The only question is whether you are bold enough to do your part.

U.S. Library of Congress ISSN: 1530-311X. Unless otherwise attributed, all material is written and edited by Molly Gordon, MCC. Copyright (c) Shaboom Inc.(r) 2010. All rights reserved. Visit our extensive archives at www.mollygordon.com

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